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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2023 14:06:25 GMT
You either support a club or you don't,shouldn't matter what league we were in and 75% of our so called supporters at the time couldn't be bothered to support the club that they allegedly loved. Including me. I followed Maidstone, home and away for 12 years, I was devastated when the club died. But that's the point - it died. To me, and perhaps many others, the club you followed during the Wilderness Years was not the club we loved and supported. I watched one of the early Invicta games and it just wasn't the same - in fact it felt like a parody, I couldn't go back. In 2012 I tried the 'new' club and it was just like coming home, so perhaps I should have started following them again earlier. But, at the time, I was still mourning the old club and my shattered dreams. Each of us respond differently to trauma, there is no right or wrong. Just be thankful that we got the club back and it now gets the sort of support it deserves. Including me. I can only say that it's still the club you had no time for in the wilderness years and yet now.... My original point being that Scunny fans already think they are playing 3 divisions below where they should be,the added insult of playing at Gainsborough will only be endured by the die hards and if promotion is not forthcoming or worse points deductions and relegation occurs then they will be getting less than 4 figures because the fans will surely disappear in their droves only til things turn around and then ,like us, they will have 1000's who haven't missed a game in 50 years. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2023 6:07:47 GMT
You either support a club or you don't,shouldn't matter what league we were in and 75% of our so called supporters at the time couldn't be bothered to support the club that they allegedly loved. Including me. I followed Maidstone, home and away for 12 years, I was devastated when the club died. But that's the point - it died. To me, and perhaps many others, the club you followed during the Wilderness Years was not the club we loved and supported. I watched one of the early Invicta games and it just wasn't the same - in fact it felt like a parody, I couldn't go back. In 2012 I tried the 'new' club and it was just like coming home, so perhaps I should have started following them again earlier. But, at the time, I was still mourning the old club and my shattered dreams. Each of us respond differently to trauma, there is no right or wrong. Just be thankful that we got the club back and it now gets the sort of support it deserves. Including me. I deal with people suffering trauma and likening losing a football club to it is ludicrous |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2023 9:00:31 GMT
Including me. I followed Maidstone, home and away for 12 years, I was devastated when the club died. But that's the point - it died. To me, and perhaps many others, the club you followed during the Wilderness Years was not the club we loved and supported. I watched one of the early Invicta games and it just wasn't the same - in fact it felt like a parody, I couldn't go back. In 2012 I tried the 'new' club and it was just like coming home, so perhaps I should have started following them again earlier. But, at the time, I was still mourning the old club and my shattered dreams. Each of us respond differently to trauma, there is no right or wrong. Just be thankful that we got the club back and it now gets the sort of support it deserves. Including me. I deal with people suffering trauma and likening losing a football club to it is ludicrous It’s certainly a point of view. Many things can cause trauma, some of them seemingly quite trivial. It’s always dangerous to deal in absolutes. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2023 11:51:35 GMT
I deal with people suffering trauma and likening losing a football club to it is ludicrous It’s certainly a point of view. Many things can cause trauma, some of them seemingly quite trivial. It’s always dangerous to deal in absolutes. I promise you, JDL was not traumatised by MUFC going bust. It's very dangerous to deal in hyperbole |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 6:26:24 GMT
You deal with traumatised people, nws? That sounds like an oxymoron, surely those poor people are traumatised because it’s you dealing with them!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 6:55:25 GMT
You deal with traumatised people, nws? That sounds like an oxymoron, surely those poor people are traumatised because it’s you dealing with them! In my head I predicted a ne'er do well would come up with that. Surprised it was you though🤣🤣 |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 8:29:59 GMT
It’s certainly a point of view. Many things can cause trauma, some of them seemingly quite trivial. It’s always dangerous to deal in absolutes. I promise you, JDL was not traumatised by MUFC going bust. It's very dangerous to deal in hyperbole You may or may not be right in this instance, but you can’t know, and it’s not up to you to decide who is or isn’t traumatised. If you have dealings with mental health then you must know that trauma can be caused by the most unlikely and, to an outsider, seemingly trivial things. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 9:07:08 GMT
I promise you, JDL was not traumatised by MUFC going bust. It's very dangerous to deal in hyperbole You may or may not be right in this instance, but you can’t know, and it’s not up to you to decide who is or isn’t traumatised. If you have dealings with mental health then you must know that trauma can be caused by the most unlikely and, to an outsider, seemingly trivial things. Strange how the trauma subsided in 2012, when it became easy to get to again. I understand all you say. I also read, with interest, the Bacp article about people reading things off the Internet and self-diagnosing... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 10:05:18 GMT
How can an outsider who doesn't know me have the faintest idea of what was going on in my life?
As it happens - not that it's any business of anyone's - my marriage had recently ended and I had lost my home and kids, I was living in a bedsit at nearly 40. Practically all I had left was football. And then that happened.
That may not be 'trauma' in hbs's clinical, know-it-all world, but it was very much in mine.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 12:30:01 GMT
How can an outsider who doesn't know me have the faintest idea of what was going on in my life? As it happens - not that it's any business of anyone's - my marriage had recently ended and I had lost my home and kids, I was living in a bedsit at nearly 40. Practically all I had left was football. And then that happened. That may not be 'trauma' in hbs's clinical, know-it-all world, but it was very much in mine. His casual dismissal of anything he disagrees with is pure arrogance. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 15:02:19 GMT
How can an outsider who doesn't know me have the faintest idea of what was going on in my life? As it happens - not that it's any business of anyone's - my marriage had recently ended and I had lost my home and kids, I was living in a bedsit at nearly 40. Practically all I had left was football. And then that happened. That may not be 'trauma' in hbs's clinical, know-it-all world, but it was very much in mine. His casual dismissal of anything he disagrees with is pure arrogance. He's just told you all the things that caused him issues at the time. However, if you (and he) prefer, it was the demise of Maidstone United. Sounds like displacement to me, but as you wish... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 15:04:16 GMT
How can an outsider who doesn't know me have the faintest idea of what was going on in my life? As it happens - not that it's any business of anyone's - my marriage had recently ended and I had lost my home and kids, I was living in a bedsit at nearly 40. Practically all I had left was football. And then that happened. That may not be 'trauma' in hbs's clinical, know-it-all world, but it was very much in mine. Or could it just be that the other things named in the post caused the issues 🙄 |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 16:15:27 GMT
How can an outsider who doesn't know me have the faintest idea of what was going on in my life? As it happens - not that it's any business of anyone's - my marriage had recently ended and I had lost my home and kids, I was living in a bedsit at nearly 40. Practically all I had left was football. And then that happened. That may not be 'trauma' in hbs's clinical, know-it-all world, but it was very much in mine. His casual dismissal of anything he disagrees with is pure arrogance. Not sure there's much 'pure' about hbs. Words like vindictive, argumentative, shit-stirring and arse, come to mind more easily than 'pure'... |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2023 21:14:18 GMT
His casual dismissal of anything he disagrees with is pure arrogance. Not sure there's much 'pure' about hbs. Words like vindictive, argumentative, shit-stirring and arse, come to mind more easily than 'pure'... Quite strange from someone who doesn't read it EVER. Still... more abuse and BS, simply because I said something true. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2023 19:22:38 GMT
Southend takeover complete and hmrc paid up.
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